Brian Weiss is the expert with this term and he uses it differently than I will in this blog, but it’s the only term that came to mind that would come close to explaining what I mean.
One can say that each phase of your life is like a little life of its own. You don’t live the same when you live at home than you do once you move out. You don’t live the same when you are in school than you do after you graduate or if you drop out. You don’t live the same when you are in your hometown with friends than you do if you are with friends in a completely different town.
The space between these lives disturbs me; especially when it’s the space between life with someone and then life with that same someone a second time. Horrible breakups and getting back together are not my thing, but sometimes life calls for a little time apart from someone and a mature agreement to take this time is made. The way I live and the way others live in between our time together is never just “ok.” There are too many disappointments every time said mini-life is through, and the only solution I can think of is deleting the space between lives. Needless to say, this is impossible. So the question is: What to do about the space between lives when ignoring isn’t possible, neither is deleting, and forgetting is… a joke?
2 Comments
June 18, 2008 at 9:59 am
Thanks for coming by Josh, never seen you around here before so welcome. =0)
I’m actually in the second half of the same life, the space in between lives is actually causing the trouble. I can’t seem to get over the whole “it’s on the past” thing, maybe because said past is barely a few months I guess. Let’s see how I figure it out.
June 18, 2008 at 1:18 am
That’s a pretty neat concept. I’ve never looked at it like that, but I like the way you have broken it down. I can relate to these feelings. If, in fact, by writing this blog you are insinuating that you are currently in this “Space Between Lives” I might suggest, to answer your question, that I believe you have found ‘what to do’ with the ’space between lives’ here. In other words, like me, perhaps you can find refuge in writing your feelings and finding others who you can relate to. This helps me, not only to tough it out through these times, but also maybe learn some things to avoid some potential future hardship or heartache.
Good luck, Josh @ http://joshbcox.wordpress.com